Putting the story in the press is sure-fire way to heal things.

Glenn, Brecon, Wales

Yeah let's blame Google, it's obviously all their fault! You're kidding...right?

Linda, Darlington, UK

The sheer audacity of Google and the Short Message Service! How dare they?

N Cook, London, UK

Lets put it to the test.

Alan

Sells Caviar

England

Alan , England , England

And telling us all about it is a way of keeping the marriage together?

Jack, Chicago, USA

Your husband could have easily changed his mobile number or arranged with is phone provider to barr her calls and texts - don't put the blame entirely upon her!
He chose not to be discreet!

Louise, London, UK

This is a joke, right? A man sleeps with a woman on a plane and the wife blames Google and stays with the unfaithful man? You have GOT to be kidding.

Catherine, London, UK

I am a divorce lawyer.

The advice to leave him ignores a reality of life - people get tempted and some give in to it.

That is no reason for ending an otherwise effective married relationship. People who say 'they always do it again' or 'you are giving him carte blanche' do more harm than good.

Peter Ryder, Middlewich, UK

Jim from Chandler, USA: I wonder if you would have the same opinion if it was the wife who had the affair. How would you act if your wife was having an affair because she was unhappy with you? Would you believe that you were the one at fault?

Robin, SJ, USA

It's amazing and shocking to see what people are saying here: leave him, dump him, he does not love you.... Get real people!
He's got a family, kids! I don't think leaving them will make anyone happy. I pity the naive women (and even more so the guys) who think leaving him is the right thing to do.

Reimar, Tokyo, Japan

Yes, I too long for the days when it was easier for us women to turn a blind eye to our husbands' cheating. You are quite inspirational though, 'tensely but silently hurting' while your husband read her text messages at 5am. You have certainly proven that you deserve him. Excellent work.

Gen, Stockholm,

It seemed to many of us Americans that Madonna married a Brit because her next step in reinventing herself at the time was to "become British" with all that entailed: posh, although pseudo, accent, home base in London area, children in British schools, etc. Maybe he's no longer needed for that?!

Barbara, Southold, US

'the boiler' isn't the issue - you're cheating husband is, where the hurt party focuses the blame on the 'other' person rather than taking a good hard look at the partner who is supposed to love and cherish them. The boiler 'owes' you nothing - your husband does.

sam, bristol,

He took you for a ride and you are still with him, I have had the same thing happen to me in reverse the best thing you can do is leave or it WILL happen again.

Tim, London, UK

I know exacly what you are going through. I found out my wife was having an affiar through the early morning vibration of the mobile phone; when I read the lurid text I was almost physically sick.

She left the same day and I now live on my own with my two daughters.

JP, kenilworth, UK

He says "Honey I swear I never saw her before the plane trip, I swear I don't know how she texted me, I swear I didnt have sex with her again after that. mhmm
If this is the story you were told he was lying about the entire thing. Nobody can be found on Google with only a first name and occupation.

Leila, Orlando, USA

Affairs can happen - and contrary to what many women think can mean nothing to a man.

However this does not mean the woman is a 'bunny boiler'. Why didn't her husband block her number? A good firm 'no' puts the most ardent of suitors off (as a woman I know that). The truth was, he loved it.

Lena, London,

This is highly unlikely. First Class upgrades never happen any more, and certainly not as 'punishment' for talking too loud. I also highly doubt two seats would be available (next to eachother!) in First, anyway.

Andy, Singapore,

And you're still with him?

Rene C. Moya, London/Los Angeles, USA

No matter if it's a true story or not, some people need to take a look in the mirror and ask themselves what THEY did wrong and what THEY could do to fix it rather than blaming Google, the woman, the husband, the postman blah blah. Sitting around waiting for the inevitable never helps.

JK, London, UK

I have the up most respect for you for telling your story. I think it's very easy for people to tell you to leave your husband, and that you're stupid for staying with him. The majority of the time, these people have no experience of the situation. It's so easy to judge, than try to relate.

Kim, Birmingham, UK

Lynne, how do you know that he doesn't love her? Because he had sex with a pretty girl on a plane? Your husband would too if he had the chance. But blaming it on Google is wrong. After all, she only sent a letter to his office with her number and HE took it from there.

Daniela Dineva, Den Bosch, The Netherlands

Now that's what I call an upgrade!

Div, Glasgow, UK

Interesting....you seem to blame everyone (including the internet) but your husband! He cheated on you and put you and your family in danger. Hes more to blame than the 'bunny boiler'. He was married.....she was single. I do hope you had the common sense to leave him!!

emma, guildford,

Such vitriol against a young, single woman (no kids around her neck like you?) and not so much towards your husband - he is/was the married one in this 'relationship' - not her, and surely therefore the more wrong?

Sarah, Yorkshire, England

This is made up.

boris venter, horsham,

If this she can find this man using Google just by his first name and a few details from a conversation, he must be quite successful / well known.

It sounds like he's an alpha male, so unfortunately you've got to expect him to behave this way simply because he is in demand, and because he can...

SR, London, UK

Unbelievable - like its Ok for his affair, and more fool you for not kicking him out.

He has strayed once - how many more times has/will he?

Google has done you a favour, but you are too dim to see it

Andrew, Cambridge,

Man I am always on the wrong flight!!

Nick Knight, Laytown, Ireland

A very well written piece, if a little sensationalist. However, you seem to be blaming everyone except your husband who was not only unfaithful to you, but put you and your family in a position where a complete stranger could disrupt your lives.

I hope you had enough self-respect to have left him.

Richard, Marlow, UK

You deserve better. Leave him. He will cheat on you again.

Nigel, Melbourve,

Sounds like the wife is in the Mile High club too. After all, her head is in the clouds, she certainly doesn't have her feet on the ground and she's in desperate need of some fresh air.

Get out of this marriage! This man is humiliating you, and it's got nothing to do with google.

James, London, UK

I don't believe this story is true; way too many implausibles. Does he have an unusually uncommon name/job? Google's good, but surely not good enough to enable someone to track a person down on the basis of "Jim, Accountant". And upgraded to first for talking too loud?? Nice story, though.

Paul, Perth, Australia

He doesn't love you. Accept that. He finds you convenient. You take care of the kids and his needs when he's around. Maybe he likes you. But he *doesn't* love you. And he never will.

lynne, Los Gatos, USA

Don't blame Google! The seeds of infidelity were already sown, regardless of Google! I do hope though that you left your husband!

Nathalie, Manchester, UK

Marriages are not perfect all the time. This implies to all, I mean all marriages. Most are at a give time going through only a fraction of perfection either party wishes to achieve. If you think you are not comfortable with your marriage most proberbly your partner is not either. Do something now!

P Sylva, Colombo, Sri lanka

It doesn't take google or a few text messages to produce an affair, it takes two human beings!!!

SB, Manchester,

Your husband does not deserve you. He could easily have dumped the mobile in the river and bought a new one, making a careful note not to give the new number to the Boiler. Shame on him that he did not.

clive, london,

It takes a lot for you to lay yourself bare, exposing yourself to the world in this manner. It seems that you have adjusted and have a very healthy view of the experience, all hurt aside. I look forward to reading more of this story, as I do find it compelling for a number of reasons. Carry on!

Darnell, Atlanta, USA

What made it possible for your husband to to have sex in first class, but not when he was in economy? Is first class so spacious that other passengers would be oblivious to copulation in their midst, or is voyeurism one of the perks of traveling first class?

Alexa, Andover, USA

If the woman kept her husband happy at home, there would be no need for him to seek elsewhere.

Jim, Chandler, USA

Ooooo he must done it many times before.You can equally do the same.At the end of the day...this is reality !Marriage or not.

fifi, Edinburgh,

I'm sorry, I do agree that blaming Google and modern technology is just a way of displacing your real anger and hurt. Temptation is the toughest thing any of us have to deal with - women, money, power... and making a mistake can have terrible consequences for people who don't feel they deserve it.

Patrick, Cork,

I want to be on the flight where the air hostess directs you to 1st class, how cool is that?!

Nick, London,

Interesting read... It's funny how a hurt woman can find everything and anything to blame. I can see how you think that technology facilitated it. Interested to know why you didn't blame flying technology - if flying was never invented, he'd never have been on that plane.

Sally , Swindon, UK

Affairs of any sort are totally unacceptable no matter what the circumstances. By not leaving you have given him carte blanche to do it again.
Blaming the other woman and imagining her as the evil of the piece exonerates your husband. He should take most of the blame as he is the one who is married.

Heather, Bristol,

LW, London - Here here

Jeff, Abersoch, Wales

The author accepts it was the husband's fault. Her point is that affairs can be jerked back into life or prolonged with the use of easy communication by the weak (or determined). It's an oft forgotten truism that temptation is more difficult to resist than the absence of temptation.

m, london,

"So began an infatuated and obsessive affair that lasted several months..."

Blame husband for affair, leave....have some self-respect, please.

Don't waste ink & trees & my time, blaming modern life...

bix, edinburgh, uk

How many times can you blame Google in one short article about a cheating husband? It's almost too obvious to type, but clearly the woes here are down to your hubby, not a search engine. You may as well blame the Wright brothers. Still, if it helps your marriage to scapegoat the internet, go for it.

LW, London, UK